their response is none of your business

Hot button word of the year, BULLY. Now I remember bullying being around since I was in Kindergarten(about 28 years ago). My brother and sister tell stories of bullying when they were in kindergarten(39years ago). Did we have thicker skin? Are  kids  are overreacting? Is it just more publisized and media-fied now more than 3 decades ago?

I remember several of my encounters with my bullies, none of them were fun, often times I would come home upset. How did my parents react? Of course they were empathetic and would want to talk to the parents of the other kids, well that was not what I wanted them to do, so I 'took care of it.' Just as my brother and sister had taken care of their bullies. By taking care of it, this makes me the bully right? Now I don't condone 'taking care of it'... it is just how we did back then. (I sound like a Mob Boss haha) In many instances taking care of the situation only makes it worse and/or more violent. However, I am not sure that the current way of handleing the situation is the best either. It seems that we are more REACTIVE as opposed to PROACTIVE. The school systems don't want it to happen therefore they don't 'see' it until too late and then some child gets labeled BULLY. Isn't this what we are trying to avoid, labels, stereotypes, and prejuding?  In my opinion we should be teaching social skills to pre-schoolers. This is how we speak to one another, this is how we control our impulses ect....

We as parents don't see our children as much as we should or maybe we do. I don't know what the anwser is, I know that in our house it is never okay to put your hands on anyone. In our house we talk it out, and if you can't talk it out with the other person, tell your truth and leave it at that. Their response is none of your business.

GOD Help us!!